Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Cassie Brighter

Episode 30

A conversation with Cassie Brighter


1 hr 4 min. Recorded on 12 January 2021.

Cassie’s pronouns are she/her, and she is a Latina woman of trans experience. Find out what that means to Cassie in this episode.

We also talk about the subtleties and challenges of inclusive language, internalised transphobia, being the best of both worlds, toxic masculinity as a cult, sex positivity and freeing ourselves from shame, female anatomy, consent, and leaving a legacy.

CW: suicide, death, rape

Terminology: TERFs =  Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminists

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“People ask me ‘why did you choose to be a woman?’…I’ve never chosen to be what I am…How did you choose to be a woman? It’s just something that you always were, and that there’s no escaping from, and that you might as well take pride in because that’s what you are.”

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About Cassie

Cassie Brighter is a writer and public speaker focusing on intersectionality and social justice. She’s the founder and Editor of Empowered Trans Woman, a web publication with a large following. Cassie is also the founder of – a new online sex-positive community for ALL women. Cassie is a frequent guest speaker at conferences and panels, most recently at ClexaCon, and the SumOfUs Festival.

You can find Cassie’s writing on and on Medium, @cassiebrighter.

What we discussed & useful links

  • A Pineapple is Not a Broken Orange: Cassie Brighter @ The Mystery Box Show [watch below]
  • Hannah Gadsby’s show Nanette (on Netflix)
  • Jameela Jamil’s talk ‘Tell Him, an Essay on Masculinity’ [watch below]
  • The ham sandwich meme [see below]

A Pineapple is Not a Broken Orange: Cassie Brighter @ The Mystery Box Show

Tell Him, an Essay on Masculinity | Jameela Jamil x MAKERS Conference 2019

The ham sandwich meme:

The ham sandwich meme

Cassie’s response:

Cassie's response to the ham sandwich meme

You can find Cassie’s meme here. To see the pictures of Cassie’s recreations, you’ll need to be a member of the Smart Sluts Facebook group.

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