Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Anna Sansom

Episode 66

A conversation with Anna Sansom


53 min. Recorded on 22 October 2021. 

Anna’s pronouns are she/her. She experiences herself as genderqueer and feels herself to be gender-responsive. Find out what that means to Anna in this episode.

We also talk about the energetic space between people, being responsive vs being reactive, how boxes can be constricting as well as expansive, playing with gender and sexuality, reclaiming the word ‘dyke’, self-healing through sexual experiences, liberating ourselves and writing our own story, pursuing desire, and why it’s more than ok to want more out of life.

“I love the term ‘queer’…because it just feels like it keeps the door open for more change and personal evolution…I know myself to be ‘woman’. I’m happy with that. I also know that it varies, so I can’t in all honesty say I’m never going to experience my gender any differently.”

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About Anna

“I’m in my late 40s and navigating all the stuff that comes with reaching this age and stage, including perimenopause. I’ve always been a writer and, when I was in my early 20s, discovered the world of erotic writing. I moved from reader of erotica to writer of erotica pretty swiftly, and I’ve had short stories and novels published. In 2019, I decided to combine erotic writing with a personal, deep-dive exploration of desire. I wanted to explore my own stories, including those about working as a sexual surrogate partner, playing with conscious kink, and the impact of shifts in my gender, sexuality, body, and attractions. The result was my book, Desire Lines: part memoir, part erotica, part questions for the reader to explore their own relationship with desire and the paths they choose to take.

I’ve also recently expanded into running courses and workshops to support others who want to explore their stories – and to create new ones. Alongside this, I work a ‘sensible’ job as a health researcher. I’d say I’m multi-passionate in pretty much every area of my life.”

You can find Anna on and, as well as on Instagram, @anna_sansom_writer, and on Facebook, @AnnaSansomWriter.

What we discussed & useful links

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Book cover of Desire Lines by Anna Sansom
Desire Lines by Anna Sansom

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