Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Fleassy Malay

81. FLEASSY MALAY – queer, gender-diverse, neurodiverse, genderfluid woman

Fleassy is a queer, gender-diverse, neurodiverse genderfluid woman.. We also talk about embracing the validity of the phases we go through, belonging in both women’s spaces and queer spaces, inclusive language and adding more nuance to conversations, internalised shame and being willing to confront our own conditioning, having observations rather than answers, how sacred rage can change the world, and playing in all the spaces. [Transcript coming soon.]

Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Anne Hodder-Shipp

80. ANNE HODDER-SHIPP – queer femme, neurodivergent, ADHD (agender, non-binary, demigirl)

Anne is a queer femme. They’re also neurodivergent with a recent ADHD diagnosis. She doesn’t have language that totally feels right, but says that sometimes agender, non-binary, and demigirl work. We also talk about not having a sense of belonging, feeling safe in your skin, self-soothing and meeting yourself where you’re at, upholding meaning over language at all cost, how the gender binary is weaponised, that a new awareness of reality is often accompanied by a mourning process, looking at love languages through a different lens, and reframing the concepts of love, touch, and relationships. [Transcript coming soon.]

Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Jenn

77. JENN – genderfree, autistic, fat

Jenn is genderfree, and she also gave us the labels autistic and fat. We also talk about choosing your own gender badges, the absurdity of assigned gender roles, being conscious of gender-neutral language, how autism in women is underdiagnosed, the limited choices when it comes to clothes, the balance of body neutrality, the various struggles fat people face, and putting the rainbow first rather than it being an afterthought. [Transcript coming soon.]

Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Ray

27. RAY – binary transgender man, FTM, gay

Ray identifies as a binary transgender man, who also happens to be gay. We talk about how feminism includes everyone, why some men need reproductive health care, the difference between male and female banter, approaching the gender journey from a neurodivergent perspective, and the distinction between using labels as part of your identity versus part of your journey or experience. [Transcript available.]

Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Hannah Watson

22. HANNAH WATSON – transgender

Hannah is transgender, and although not fond of labels, the terms non-binary and asexual semi-resonate with her as well. We also talk about gender identity versus biology versus sexuality, to what degree gender defines you, why the term ‘gender confirmation surgery’ is a better term than ‘gender reassignment surgery’ and ‘sex change’, conforming to society’s norms, and ‘unconventional’ types of love, attraction, intimacy and relationships. [Transcript available.]