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A identifies as a non-binary trans man. We talk about his journey from transitioning to detransitioning to retransitioning, going inward on a soul quest, embracing the journey, deconditioning, returning to home in the body, feeling safe, redefining masculinity and femininity and a spiritual and energetic perspective on these, and taking the long road. [Transcript coming soon.]
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Raven is genderqueer, a relationship anarchist, and bisexual. We also talk about queering everything, breaking the rules, the assumptions people make about gender in relation to bodies, how labels describe us but don’t define us, the importance of local community and looking after each other, and letting the unknown be exciting and full of opportunity. [Transcript coming soon.]
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Kelsey is agender, asexual, disabled, neurodivergent, and queer. We talk about the link between gender and neurodivergence, shared experiences, assumptions and stereotyping about disability and sexuality, split attraction, the nuance of asexuality, desire, and physical responses, the superpower and shadow sides of neurodivergence, how to have consensual conversations about personal subjects, and the importance of just listening.. [Transcript coming soon.]
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Deanna is a transgender woman. We also talk about the positive evolution of the job industry, what good leadership looks like, the importance of finding community, and what allies can do to help. [Transcript coming soon.]
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Finn is trans-masculine and queer. He also uses the label trans man. We also talk about challenges with gendered language, finding your people, what labels feel like home, intersectionality and discrimination, the importance of accurate media representation and celebrating genuine efforts at it, tackling misinformation, and letting people evolve. [Transcript coming soon.]
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Jenn uses the labels gender non-conforming, genderqueer, non-binary, and neuroqueer. They also refer to themself as female and woman-shaped, as well as neurodivergent, polyamorous, a relationship anarchist, bisexual, and pansexual. We also talk about creating inclusive spaces, neuroqueering everything, unmasking, consent as a practice, misunderstandings around polyamory and relationship anarchy, liberating ourselves, and being a little bit braver. [Transcript coming soon.]
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Helena is a transgender woman, pansexual, and bipolar. We also talk about transitioning while parenting a young child, building trust in relationships, the overlap between bipolar disorder and ADHD, challenges in calling out problematic behaviour and opinions in groups, alternative publishing company structures, writing authentic characters, and how to get a more realistic representation of LGBTQIA+ and other marginalised people in books, films, and TV. [Transcript coming soon.]
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Anshar identifies as non-binary, because of their lack of exposure to gender constructs as an autistic person. We also talk about expectations of maleness, sensory difficulties, navigating relationships, social exclusion and isolation, making connections, masking, opening up conversations, effective listening, and learning how to treat each other well. [Transcript coming soon.]
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Sofie is non-binary and queer. We talk about being raised as a person, how boundaries can be a gift, that safe sex is as much about being present as it is about using protection, that all bodies are new bodies when it comes to having sex, how fatness often complicates everything to do with gender, building self-trust, and becoming a safe person for yourself. [Transcript coming soon.]
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Jason is intersex and transgender (a trans man), as well as heterosexual and neurodiverse. We also talk about disconnecting from the body and reclaiming yourself, the role of genetics in hormone therapy, and Gender Recognition Act reform. CW: suicide, bulllying, electric shock therapy, sexual assault, abuse, and trauma. [Transcript coming soon.]
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Ray is genderqueer, boi, and also a practicing bisexual, and T4T. We talk about ways to be queer, the expansiveness of the term bisexual, philosophy and decision making, ignoring possibilities, the essence of womanhood (or lack thereof), testosterone’s physical and emotional effects, how to define aggression, consent policies, and being impossible. [Transcript coming soon.]
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Carrie is a trans woman, a lesbian, and demisexual. We talk about transness only making sense in the rearview mirror, how much more challenging things can become once you start transition, what the anti-trans movement has in common with the witch trials, being ambushed in the media, why everything is gendered, hope for the future, and walking unafraid. [Transcript coming soon.]
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Mattia is nonbinary trans, agender, genderqueer, transmasc, autigender, AuDHD, and queer (as well as neuroqueer). They also use the labels relationship anarchy and poly. We also talk about being taken seriously when you’re outside the gender binary, what counts as an apology and what doesn’t, assumptions about presentation, the importance of diverse transition stories, performing gender, how advice for different neurotypes can be conflicting, and navigating intersectional marginalised identities. [Transcript coming soon.]
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In this fourth Reflections episode, Katy interviews Esther as she reflects on further conversations she’s had with gender-diverse folks, what she’s learned about gender, as well as her own journey and how she and the podcast have evolved over three years since the podcast started. We also talk about the decision to take a break, trusting your intuition, intersectionality, internalised misogyny, using inclusive language, questioning everything, opening conversations rather than shutting them down, what allyship can look like, and reclaiming authenticity. [Transcript coming soon.]
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Tash is neurodivergent, non-binary, a genderfluid woman, and queer. Find out what that means to Tash in this episode. We talk about what is non-conforming enough, the experience of being sexualised, how showing up with our imperfections builds connection, marginalisation and intersectionality, how we all have internalised misogyny, racism, homophobia and transphobia, seeing each other’s humanity, and feeling safe to be yourself. [Transcript coming soon.]
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Ely is a queer, agender, neurodivergent person. We talk about being neurodivergent from a brain injury perspective, being ‘not straight’ during Section 28, acting normal, coming out again, not recognising yourself in the gender binary, and how gender diversity is expanding in film and TV. [Transcript coming soon.]
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Kate is the parent of a transgender child. We talk about the challenges of deciding on a name, being in transition as a family, the privilege of having access to an accepting community, how important it is to be an ally and educate ourselves, that acceptance is protection, and telling stories in a responsible way. [Transcript coming soon.]
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Chris is transgender, non-binary, asexual and panromantic. We also talk about how labels can mean something different each day, that the gender binary is a colonial construct, gender fuckery and gender abundance, cultural influences on gender, what allyship is and what it’s not, how to take accountability, feeling safe in ourselves, dismantling internalised belief systems, and making space for abundance. [Transcript coming soon.]
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Joris is a trans man, and queer. We talk about being comfortable in your body, getting the method of application right when going on hormones, the importance of representation, the need to focus more on the thriving of trans people rather than the struggle, the difference between sustainable and regenerative, and allowing ourselves to create a big vision for ourselves and the world. [Transcript coming soon.]
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Rachel is a transgender female. We also talk about being transgender vs having gender dysphoria, how coming out is a process, transitioning during covid, the actual and hidden cost of transition, how hard it is to get a GRC (Gender Recognition Certificate), how the term ‘TERF’ has evolved, and feeling like yourself. [Transcript coming soon.]
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Fabian is a trans(gender) man. We also talk about transitioning in your teenage years, what it’s like to be pregnant as a trans man, accessing reproductive care while navigating an outdated system that doesn’t distinguish between sex and gender, and becoming comfortable in your gender identity. [Transcript coming soon.]
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Finley is transgender, non-binary, agender, and a demigirl. Autigender is another label they are considering adding. They are also autistic, polyamorous, and kinky. We also talk about the connection between facets of identity including gender, neurodivergence, polyamory and kink, feeling safe to be authentic, reclaiming childhood and nurturing the inner child, misconceptions about kink and sex work, body appreciation and recovering from an eating disorder, and trying to function in a society that’s constructed for people who are not disabled. [Transcript coming soon.]
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Harris is agender, non-binary, and trans (with a dash of ‘boy’). We talk about being on testosterone, embodying queerness in intimate relationships, finding safety in yourself, navigating family dynamics and having consensual conversations, the importance of having access to a supportive community, what it was like living through Section 28 times, allyship and inclusivity, and exploring kink. [Transcript coming soon.]
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Esther is taking a break from creating new episodes for now, and talks about she came to that decision. [Transcript available.]
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Cleo is queer, trans, and a woman. Join us as we briefly go down a rabbit hole of queer history and time, talking about the entanglement of sexuality and gender, linguistic limitations, the intersection of history, language, and identity, what is left out of history, the construct of normativity, levels of activism, and the many ways things can get lost in translation. [Transcript coming soon.]
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