Episode 115

A conversation with Leanne Yau

AGENDER, NON-BINARY, QUEER, AUTIGENDER, DEMIGIRL

52 min. Recorded on 27 January 2026.

Leanne’s pronouns are they/she, and they are agender, non-binary, queer, autigender, and a demigirl. Find out what that means to Leanne in this episode.

We also talk about gender roles and expectations in Intimacy and sex, how pronouns may be context-dependent, the freedom that can be found in queer relationships, how sexuality and gender influence each other, claiming our own space with respect for others, and an email we exchanged 4 years ago.

“I’m not a woman, but I’m also not not a woman.”

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About Leanne

Leanne Yau is a British award-winning polyamory educator, writer, speaker, certified sex and relationships educator, and trainee psychosexual therapist whose work is all about non-monogamy and sex positivity. She creates educational and entertaining multimedia content about creating healthy and sustainable non-monogamous relationships, drawing from her lived experiences as a polyamorous, bisexual, neurodivergent, kinky, and Asian agender femme who has been openly non-monogamous since 2016.

Leanne was named in ‘15 LGBTQ+ Educators Who Took Instagram Infotainment To The Next Level’ (Buzzfeed, 2021), ’10 Polyamory Experts to Follow on TikTok’ (Cosmopolitan, 2022), and ‘60 Top Influencers Who Are Actually Worth the Follow’ (Men’s Health, 2023). She holds a Special Recognition and Appreciation Award for her contributions to the non-monogamous community (The Panel ENM, 2021), and was nominated for Sex and Relationships Creator of the Year (BCreator, 2024).

Since 2020, Leanne has connected with millions across the globe through her social media posts, online and in-person talks, workshops, panels, and lectures, in the media, and her private non-monogamous peer support sessions. She also writes ‘A Polyamorous Perspective’, a polyamory advice column at Gay Times.

You can find Leanne on polyphilia.blog and on YouTube @PolyPhilia, Instagram @polyphiliablog, TikTok @polyphiliablog, X @polyphiliablog, Threads @polyphiliablog, and Facebook @polyphiliablog.